by Barry K. Weinhold, 146p eBook, $15.00: This ebook examines the basic psychological causes of all human misery. It’s goal is to make adults more aware of the attitudes and behavior patterns that they learned during childhood. These dysfunctional, addictive family patterns often lay dormant until adulthood when they begin to interfere with relationships. It is Barry’s contention that these unconscious patterns are responsible for most of the cruelty that human beings create for themselves and others, including emotional, sexual and physical child abuse and neglect; all crimes of violence; all eating disorders, alcoholism, and drug abuse; teenage suicides; all unhappy adult relationships and perhaps all illnesses. Imbedded in all are dysfunctional ways of thinking, feeling and behaving learned as children in our family of origin.
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by David L. Fenell & Barry K. Weinhold. (2003). (IBSN# 0-89108-300-6). $46.00 – 448p. This textbook helps readers learn how to combine the best family systems theories and techniques with the best non-systems marriage and family theories and techniques. Many colleges and universities use it in their introductory course.
by – Barry K. Weinhold & Janae B. Weinhold. (2008). (ISBN#
978-0-89108-339-9) $68.00 – 336p. This newly revised edition of Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way, in a combined text/workbook format, is a workshop in itself. The product of more than 20 years of research, it presents the Weinholds life-changing, consciousness-shifting paradigm for resolving conflicts in all human systems. Based on Developmental Systems Theory, an approach created by the authors, it contains many written exercises help personalize the information.
Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap identifies co-dependency as the result of developmental traumas that interfered with the infant-parent bonding relationship during the first year of life. This book radically challenges the prevailing medical definition of co-dependency as a permanent, progressive, and incurable addiction.
This bestselling book, now in a revised edition, describes not only the problem, but what you can do about it. Drawing on their decades of clinical experience, Barry and Janae Weinhold correlate the developmental causes of co-dependency with relationship problems later in life, such as establishing and maintaining boundaries, clinging and dependent behaviors, people pleasing, and difficulty achieving success in the world.
The last half of Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap focuses on healing co-dependency, and gives compelling case histories and practical activities to help readers heal early trauma and transform themselves and their primary relationships.
By Amy M
I have read through some of Melody Beattie’s books, and I was thankful to finally find “Breaking Free”! I’m analytical and like all things practical. Most other books on codependency seemed little more than a diagnosis of the problem; they largely failed to provide practical suggestions for how one can begin a journey to break out of patterns of codependency. (For example, Beattie speaks on a general level and never walks people through ways to grow and change. Her books seem fatalistic with the idea that once an codependent, always a codependent.)I highly recommend this book because every chapter gives practical ways to work through different layers of the codependency problem. They provide suggestions for individuals, for therapy, for groups, and for couples.
Futhermore, after reading each chapter, I was able to start working through this issue little by little, learning to make small steps towards a healthier existence.
My husband and I are conscious of our need to grow out of patterns of codependency – this made it possible for me to achieve very helpful breakthroughs using the individual and relationship/partner suggestions. I imagine that the therapy and group suggestions are equally helpful for people using these resources.
One Note: The authors have unique personal views that some readers may disagree with. For example, they hold that Codependency is an society-wide problem and non-violence can resolve all of these problems. The author’s personal belief and experience led them to the belief that ‘breaking free from codependency’ is most quickly achieved through a committed relationship where both are open to growing in this area. This may not be the reality for many readers.
Ultimately, the book focuses on practical ideas and it is not necessary to agree entirely with these peripheral ideas. I don’t keep most books once I have read them, but this book was so helpful that I consider it a critical “Reference” book to me.
by Janae B. Weinhold & Barry K. Weinhold. (2008, New World Library). $14.95 – 245 p. This book, which describes the flip side of co-dependency, shows how trauma during the separation stage of development causes recurring conflicts and problems with intimacy in adult relationships. This is the only book on the market on this important topic, and more than half ofit is devoted to self-inventories and practical exercises designed to identify and change counter-dependent behaviors.