The Flight From Intimacy YouTubes identify counterdependency as the result of developmental trauma between the age of 9 and 36 months. This trauma prevents the completion of the “pyschological birth” and a child’s emotional separation from his or her parents.The premise of The Flight From Intimacy is that counterdependency is a set of behaviors that can be changed through inner work, by using effective self-healing tools, through conscious, committed relationships, and through therapy.
We correlate developmental trauma with counderdependent behaviors and problems with adult intimacy. We also see counterdependency as a systemic problem. By this we mean that individuals, couples, families, groups, organizations, cultures and nation-states all struggle with intimacy, cooperation and collaboration.
In the YouTubes below, we talk about our developmental approach to healing counterdependency. We also talk about our book, The Flight From Intimacy, which contains many case histories and lots practical activities to help you identify and heal the traumas from your early childhood.
In these we talk about the personal aspects of counterdependency:
In these we talk about the collective aspects of counterdependency: