The Weinholds believe that sustainable relationships create a social safety net for people during times of economic uncertainty, political instability and rapid global climate. These videos examine the importance of having a web of relationships that provide social and emotional support during times of rapid change.
The primary cause of relationship conflicts is unmet emotional needs related to developmental traumas from childhood. As a relationship becomes more intimate and feels safe, these unmet needs will begin to emerge. Of course, this is all happening at an unconscious level. Most people aren’t even aware that they have unmet needs. So when relationship […]
The search for intimacy has reached new heights as more than 40 million lonely Americans used online dating services last year. The search for soul mates and other kinds of “perfect match” partners has caused an explosion of internet match services and social networking sites, showing just how many people are searching for intimacy and […]
The secret of Divine Relationships is synching our conscious mind with our unconscious mind. When these two minds are out of synch, the unconscious mind takes over. Rather than experiencing our divinity in relationships, we are controlled by trauma from the past and disconnected from those closest to us.
Birthing positions can be a cause of developmental trauma during a child’s birth. The trauma can be prevented by using more natural birthing positions that allow the mother to squat. This is possible during underwater births, which have been practiced for since the 1970s years in France and Russia and appeared more recently in California. […]
We got a lot of inspiration from Tara and Bella about making close relationships work . . . we hope you do too.
For the past 23+ years we have been creating what we call a divine relationship, in which two people commit to walk together on a path that heals the hearts of both and opens each to the experience of the divine. What we have experienced is that walking this path together has activated layers of […]
In our recent book, Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way, ( 2009, pp. 161-172), we discuss one of the most universal human experiences: betrayal trauma. Betrayal experiences create a special kind of developmental trauma and stress. They often begin in early childhood when you placed all your trust in your parents and other caregiving adults, anticipating […]
It is big business today in America to label any compulsive behaviors related to food, drink, sex, relationships, or activities such as gambling, smoking, working, or shopping as a disease. The expensive residential treatment programs that stand to benefit most from the disease model have been successful in getting almost all addictions or compulsive behaviors […]
by Janae B. Weinhold & Barry K. Weinhold. (2008, New World Library). $14.95 – 245 p. This book, which describes the flip side of co-dependency, shows how trauma during the separation stage of development causes recurring conflicts and problems with intimacy in adult relationships. This is the only book on the market on this important […]
Developmental trauma by our definition, is caused by breaks in the sensory bond that connects children with their caregivers. This sensory bond happens through skin-to-skin, eye-to-eye, ear-to-ear and right-brain-to-right-brain contact that creates a resonant field of interconnected energy. Allen Schore’s introduction of language from quantum sciences into the study of infant and children’s mental health […]
This 23 minute interview focuses on Barry and Janae’s newly released and revised edition of Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way. This interview by Lara Honos-Webb is about our new book, Conflict Resolution: The partnership Way. We discuss the causes of relationship conflict and our comprehensive approach to conflict resolution. Lara is an excellent interviewer (she […]
In this 50 minute interview with Barry and Janae, they talk about their book, Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way. They also talk about how unseen and unhealed developmental traumas that each party brings to the relationship is the hidden cause of conflict in relationships. Adam Lehman is an bioenergetic bodyworker and former engineer-producter who also […]
Healing Your Relationship of Co-Dependency and Counter-Dependency Terri L. Orbuch, PhD, better known as The Love Doctor, is an author, psychologist, workshop leader, Oakland University sociology professor, nationally recognized research scientist at The University of Michigan, and a popular radio and television personality who specializes in relationships of all kinds. Listen to Terri’s interview of […]
One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like he was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, “Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday He must really be […]