How do lies, shaming and judgment affect you? Most people can give you a long list of what they believe is wrong with them, but are hard-pressed to think of any good qualities. Most of us are told we’re not “good enough” in some important way, and told enough times that we believed this must be true. This process begins very early in life. Research shows that parents say the word “no” to their child over 20,000 times before he/she reaches the age of two. And most of this is delivered with judging, shaming facial expressions. Most people don’t realize how damaging it is to base their life on twisted beliefs. If this happened to you, what can you do to change your negative beliefs about yourself?
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About the Series
This four-book series shows how twisted beliefs can screw up your life even if you are smart. You may suffer from premature hardening of the categories and believe things that aren’t really true. You may hold twisted, rigid beliefs that cause you to make self-defeating decisions. These four books take you on an inner journey starting with learning about how your beliefs can get twisted. Then you learn how your twisted beliefs may attract con artists, sociopaths and predators into your life and what you need to do to protect yourself from them. Next you learn how to change your twisted beliefs, even those that could kill you. Finally, you learn how to trust your “inner knowing” instead of your beliefs and then learn to use that knowledge to guide your life decisions.
- Twisted Beliefs: How they Cause Premature Hardening of the Categories
- The Twisted Beliefs of Human Predators
- How To Identify And Change Your Twisted Beliefs
- Beyond Beliefs: The Journey of The Gnostic Warrior
About this Book
Do you remember how you felt when you found out that your belief in Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny or the Tooth Fairy was not true? I felt conflicted because I liked all the gifts that came with the lie. This is like Woody Allen’s story about his uncle who thought he was a chicken. He said the family didn’t correct him because they needed the eggs. Santa Claus is typically portrayed as a person who supposedly watched you to see if you were good or bad and would reward you accordingly on Christmas morning. The implied threat was if you’d end up with a lump of coal if you didn’t behave. How deceitful is it to use Santa Clause to control your kid’s behavior? Sadly, I ended up telling my kids the same lies for the same reasons. Go figure! I was told other lies that had far more damaging effects on my life. For example, I learned in church that I was born a sinner and would always be one. They were pretty convincing, so I believed what they told me. I also learned from my parents what a “bad boy” when I did something that displeased them.
The Impact of Twisted Beliefs on Your Life
How do lies, shaming and judgment affect you? Most people can give you a long list of what they believe is wrong with them, but are hard-pressed to think of any good qualities. Most of us are told we’re not “good enough” in some important way, and told enough times that we believed this must be true. This process begins very early in life. Research shows that parents say the word “no” to their child over 20,000 times before he/she reaches the age of two. And most of this is delivered with judging, shaming facial expressions. Most people don’t realize how damaging it is to base their life on twisted beliefs. If this happened to you, what can you do to change your negative beliefs about yourself?
How This Book Can Help You
How to Identify and Change Your Twisted Beliefs provides answers to these and other important questions. It includes many self-awareness and self-correction exercises to help you identify and change lie-based beliefs that you learned while growing up. For example, one self-inventory identifies thirty-six common twisted beliefs that you may have learned while growing up in your family, church or schools. The first part of the book helps you identify any twisted beliefs you might have. It also identifies the probable negative effects that holding these twisted beliefs can have on your life. The second half of the book shows you how you can change your twisted beliefs. Twisted beliefs about yourself can cause stress that leads to degenerative diseases. For example, I describe how I held twisted beliefs that caused cancer to grow in my body. I also share how I was able to reverse it by changing my twisted beliefs. I write about how I identified and changed other twisted beliefs, and what I learned in that process. This is a very personal book that Barry felt compelled to write and share with others who are interested in personal growth and change.
