Building sustainable relationships requires learning new interpersonal skills, a disciplined commitment and the ability to love unconditionally. There aren’t any magical solutions for building sustainable relationships and lasting love–no quick tricks, fast fixes or fancy maneuvers. We aren’t selling “magical thinking” or magical tools. And the people who are selling this kind of stuff are con artists. We say this not only from our own experiences, each of us now with close to 50 years of married life experiences, but from our 30+ years of counseling hundreds of individuals, couples & families.
What we are selling comes from our LOVE–atory–our time-tested, in-the-trenches work as committed partners and as professionals who walk our talk. When we got together almost 30 years ago, we’d both been married to other people for 20 years, and Barry had also been widowed. So we weren’t naïve about the challenges of sustaining long-term intimate relationships. You might say we got our “boot camp” training in these previous relationships and then learned how to use these experiences as the fodder for creating something more solid and lasting.