On a human level, experiencing LOVEvolution happens through a process known as individuation. Becoming spiritually individuated means to move from being unconsciously united with God, to becoming separated from God and developing individual consciousness or awareness, and then rejoining again with God as a conscious, aware, separate Being.
Becoming psychologically individuated means moving from being unconsciously symbiotic with othersparents, partners, childrento becoming physically, emotionally and mentally separate from them, and rejoining again with them again as conscious, aware, separate Beings. . If you experienced this strong relational foundation as a child, it would be easier to individuate from your parents, to keep your heart open, and to experience the luminosity and pure potential of your spiritual self. You cannot separate emotionally from another person through blaming and criticizing, as it keeps you stuck in either/or, black/white thinking. Youll know when you become emotionally separate from someone if you are able to see them as having both negative and positive attributes. This is a sign that you have developed both/and or unity thinking. The love-based LOVEvolution track of life experience is characterized by positive emotions of affection and optimism. It is the result of having a brain and nervous system that is wired for limbic resonance and emotional intimacy. Living primarily on this track means you are able to experience sustained experiences of deep emotional and spiritual connection with your both parents, beginning in the womb.
This allows you to engage socially and emotionally so that you can experience what we call the Divine or Functional Family Triangle, in which parents are bonded with each other and their child. The Divine Triangle is a tightly connected family structure in which children are able to complete the essential developmental processes involving bonding and separation.
We have spent much of our twenty years together mapping this process inside ourselves, in our relationship, in our families and in the world around us. Weve divided human individuation into four distinctive stages, each with its unique set of developmental tasks and challenges. We have also identified how and where this process breaks down and obstructs all of humanity from pushing forward collectively in its evolution.For more information about the developmental model weve created to map the process of individuation, click here.