Building sustainable relationships requires learning new interpersonal skills, a disciplined commitment and the ability to love unconditionally. There aren’t any magical solutions for building sustainable relationships and lasting love–no quick tricks, fast fixes or fancy maneuvers. We aren’t selling “magical thinking” or magical tools. And the people who are selling this kind of stuff are con artists. We say this not only from our own experiences, each of us now with close to 50 years of married life experiences, but from our 30+ years of counseling hundreds of individuals, couples & families.

What we are selling comes from our LOVEatory–our time-tested, in-the-trenches work as committed partners and as professionals who walk our talk. When we got together almost 30 years ago, we’d both been married to other people for 20 years, and Barry had also been widowed. So we weren’t naïve about the challenges of sustaining long-term intimate relationships. You might say we got our “boot camp” training in these previous relationships and then learned how to use these experiences as the fodder for creating something more solid and lasting.

Here we talk more about how to build sustainable relationships:





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One Response to Building Sustainable Relationships

  1. Asntonstian says:

    is so true! We are COUNTING on you! I know I want my child to grow up in a state that knows how to compromise and work with others and how to invest in the future of ALL of our citizens not just the most affluent who can further careers and political aspirations.I know I want my child to grow up in a state that values real people ALL people which includes diverse populations a state made up of unique individuals who can count on their local government to look out for their best interests. Is Minnesota that state? Can you not compromise and make a decision and finish the job you started so as not to punish those who are depending daily on these very necessary services? Isn’t that the kind of state you want to live in? Isn’t that the kind of world you want to live in?

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